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Jayden, do you need a little extra support, pleasure, and magic right now? 

I know I do! It feels like we’re in the middle of a massive, intergalactic karmic churn that, while I believe can make us stronger and more amazing overall, is also making me a little nauseous and seasick with all the CHURNING. (Do you feel me?)

I have a whole arsenal of supportive tools I use and recommend, but during times like this when we’re really called to find our center and our truth...

Breathwork is my all-time favorite.  

After all, what’s not to love about breathwork? It makes you naturally high, brings you into ? states of ecstasy ?, puts you into deep states of meditation and awareness, gives you the space to feel all of the feels, and lets you be the center of your own personal ?? rainbow magical universe ??. 

I do breathwork in my backyard pretty much every morning with Andrew. 

And “Pussy Breathing” is when you combine all those magical effects of breathwork with the power and pleasure of your pussy. 

If you want to learn a really simple 3-step practice you can do daily, check out the video below!

Try this 3-step pussy breathing practice to enter deep states of ecstasy and self-love!

In the beginning stages of this practice, you build a relationship with your pussy and increased sensitivity. 

In the later stages, you can even breathe yourself into orgasm (more on that later!).

Right now, as the world churns and so many important (and sometimes scary!) things are happening...rooting down into our bodies, reveling in our pleasures, and continuing to stay LIT from the inside out is so, so important. 

I use this practice personally to stay in my power so I can continue to create each and every day in alignment with my highest visions, and not my fears. 

May this practice be a similar blessing for you!

(Side note, I teach it as “pussy breathing” but you can do it with a penis or any type of genitals and it’s just as powerful.) 

Love,
Layla

P.S. DID YOU KNOW it’s the season of Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification MAGIC!?! That means if you’ve been feeling the call to change or uplevel your career and engage in an unforgettable and seriously life-changing 1 year+ of magic and transformation...this is for you! Applications open on July 21st. If you’re interested in learning more, I’m holding a super special LIVE EVENT on opening day. You can get all of the details and register here. 
 

Hi Jayden,

About a year ago, I attended “Butt-Con” in New York City as a featured expert. 

I flew across the country for two reasons: 1. because a beloved friend was hosting it and 2. because it was a conference about butts. Obviously. 

While I was there, a reporter from Men’s Health Magazine climbed under a giant inflatable butt (Was it a piece of art? Not sure.) with me and asked what I wish everyone knew about the anus.

I responded: “I wish people knew that the anus was a portal to God.” 

She got excited and asked, “What else do you wish people knew about the anus?”

And I said, “I wish people knew that the anus was a living, beautiful, and sacred part of the body. That it’s not just a hole...it’s a pleasure-filled, vastly important part of us and if we work with it, it opens up into some of the most joy-filled orgasmic experiences imaginable.” 

Watch this week’s episode: The Ultimate Guide to Intergalactic Anal Orgasms to learn more!

So, the question we’re all probably wondering at this point is…

If anal orgasms are so delicious for women, so intimate, and so...hole-y (*nudge nudge*)…

And if women actually love anal pleasure (when they engage in it consensually and with the respect their bodies deserve)…

THEN WHY ARE THEY PORTRAYED IN THE MEDIA AND PORN AS BEING TABOO AND “FOR THE MAN” AND AN ACT OF MALE DOMINANCE?!?

Because leave it to the patriarchy to take something precious, sacred, orgasmic, and powerful on a woman’s body and twist it into being his to take, dominate, and claim. 

Leave it to the patriarchy to ruin what was designed by nature to be a really good time. 

And look, when I say patriarchy, I don’t mean “men”...anybody can be a part of the patriarchy, regardless of gender, and we all have a part in dismantling it. 

**Also, men who are attentive, consensual, communicative lovers can be the co-creators of epic anal orgasms.**

By patriarchy, I mean the toxic system by which women’s bodies, sexuality, sense of self, innate feminine wisdom, power, and orgasmic nature are treated as property for male satisfaction, and as a result become silenced, abused, disrespected, and finally… lost to the silence.  

Well, fuck that. 

In my experience, sexuality is where that toxic system is dismantled as women reclaim the innate power and pleasure of their bodies as their own. 

Yeah, it’s an anal orgasm... 

But if it’s happening in a female body with consent, joy, power, and as an access point to higher consciousness... 

It’s also a fucking revolution. 

Welcome to the party ;)

I hope you enjoy your reality-transforming intergalactic anal orgasms... 

And give the Goddess Pussy in All of Us a fist pump, while you’re at it. 

Head over here to watch this week’s video and download the free digital guide with practical steps on how to have an anal orgasm!

Love,
Layla

P.S. In case you missed it - my VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification is open for enrollment! And if you apply now, you’ll get to take advantage of $11,500 worth of BONUS content before the program even begins! Get all of the info and apply here. 
 

Hi Jayden,

I’ve always felt that the best way to initiate a resistant/skeptical/non woo-woo partner (or what we HP nerds call “Muggles”) into the vast expanses of their sexuality is through a sensual pussy or penis massage. 

It allows them to feel first-hand how truly MAGICAL a deeper sexual experience is for their pleasure and...well, entire existence.  

So in this week’s video, I’ll guide you through a 12-step penis massage for a partner who is resistant to spirituality (but still down to have their mind-blown in an earth-shattering kind of way.) 

Learn how to give a magical penis massage with step-by-step instructions here.

Now, this massage isn’t for someone who most definitely does not want a soul-awakening penis massage. You can’t force someone to be deeper or more magical if they don’t want to be.

This practice is for the man or person who DEEPLY wants a magical sexual experience but has most likely been conditioned to believe that those kinds of things are “crazy” or “anti-science” or “not manly”...

And you, in your heart of hearts, want to feed them the magic they crave, even if their mind doesn’t quite know how to get there. 

Allow me to share a little story about my past to demonstrate my point.

When I was 25, I fell deeply in love with an Australian guy with Italian roots who built walls for a living. 

He was (in my opinion) crazy sexy and raw, in that “I’ll build you anything you want” kind of way...

He’d spent most of his life drinking, raising his kids, and doing manual labor…

And I was a dedicated Tantric practitioner who’d run off to India at age 18 to find my guru. 

We had absolutely nothing in common...

Yet somehow, our worlds collided on a beach in the Thai islands…

And ignited a steamy love affair that you could call: “the obsessed spiritual devotee and the hard-working muggle.”

...And before you ask, yes, it absolutely ended in a catastrophic ?? ball of flames ??.

But even back then, I was deeply passionate about initiating people into their higher sexuality (I. Literally. Cannot. Help. Myself. ??)

Sure, I could meditate for days and spin chakras in my sleep…

But if I wanted him to taste his own sexual magnificence...I’d have to be stealth about sneaking in spirituality…

And he could thank me later ;)

So...many, many penis massages later...what happened to that wall builder?

Well, after quite the initiation - he became a devoted spiritual practitioner himself - and still is to this day!

You see, I believe every ‘muggle’ is just a magical person waiting to wake up to their own sacred sexual magnificence. 

And sometimes, an epic penis massage is the one-way ticket to this realization. 

So if you consider yourself a magical person, it’s our blessing and honor to be the force of beauty that initiates others into this sacred world ??. 

Go here to watch this week’s step-by-step video on how to create this experience for your partner…

And download the free guide underneath for advanced stroking techniques that will surely blow his mind! 

Love,
Layla

P.S. My Epic Lovers course for couples is opening soon for the LAST time! If you want to create a deeper connection with your partner and discover exciting sexual practices to take your relationship to a completely new level, then hop on the waitlist over here and you’ll be the first to know when we open the doors.

Hi Jayden,

I’m gonna be honest with you right now...

I’m not into the whole Netflix and chill thing. 

No, no...I’m more into RADICAL G-SPOT EXPLORATION and SQUIRT! You know what I’m saying?!? 

(Although full disclosure, if I was going to self-pleasure to anything on Netflix right now it would definitely be “Eurovision Song Contest: The Story of Fire Saga”...but that’s for another day…#judgeaway) 

Seriously though, I LOVE setting aside 30 minutes for myself and exploring new things in my own body and sexuality (it’s the ultimate self-care...like a bubble bath on ecstatic, orgasmic steroids)…

And although exploring with a partner is amazing, I actually love my own solo missions just as much as my partnered experiences... they’re different, but both really special. 

(And before I get 500+ emails about how that must be because ‘I don’t actually enjoy my time with Andrew’, that’s so not true; I adore our sexual time together….I just happen to be the ultimate Queen lover to myself as well.)

Especially during a time when we can’t go to wild house parties or Burning Man ??????, exploring your own g-spot with a toy, jade egg or self-massage is such an epic thing to do for an internal party. ????

(Sorry, couldn’t help myself ??)

And, if you want to become highly orgasmic in that area, aka make your g-spot “party central” -  it takes time and patience and exploration…

Which is way easier to discover and unlock on your own first!

SO...this week's video will walk you through the 6 steps to unlocking your own g-spot orgasm. Enjoy! ??

Click here to watch step-by-step how to unlock internal orgasms through your G-spot.

Love,
Layla

P.S. Speaking of parties, my VITA Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification opens for enrollment on July 21st!!! I’ll be hosting an EPIC Virtual Live Event to celebrate the launch, guide everyone through a transformative live practice, and share just what exactly makes being a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach SO damn extraordinary. So if you’re curious - go ahead and register for the event here. 

Hi Jayden,

About 7 years ago, I decided I was going to get back into fitness…

I put on some activewear, laced up my shoes, and went running in the rice paddies of Bali…

For FOUR WHOLE minutes. 

You see, I felt that if you want to make big life changes, you have to start tiny…

Because tiny is doable.  

And the same goes for starting a jade egg/yoni egg practice.

You might think you need to do a full hour of pleasure practices to get the transformation you desire...

But 5 minutes each day can change your entire life. 

So I created this morning yoni egg ritual (with a downloadable audio that you can use every morning if you want!) because it keeps your practice simple and doable.

Learn my simple morning yoni egg ritual and get the free guided audio here. 

If you want to take just 5 minutes (or even just 1 minute) to set your day up with a focus on pleasure… then this practice is for you!

I take 5-minute practices like this, and I build an epic life from them. 

That’s why I was SO delighted when I read BJ Fogg’s book, “Tiny Habits.” 

He’s the founder and director of the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford University, and all of his research shows that if you want to build a habit - be it fitness or a life full of sexy pleasure - tiny is the way to go. 

He talks about flossing just one tooth. 

Or running for 5 minutes. (I got even TINIER hahahaha.)

I was already sold on this idea, but there is nothing like good ol’ scientific research to back up your own intuition, amiright? 

So if you’re like me and have ever judged yourself for being “lazy” or “unmotivated,” and pressured yourself to do more... 

Let us rejoice, because: 

SCIENCE SAYS THAT DOING A TINY AMOUNT OF SOMETHING IS MORE EFFECTIVE THAN FORCING YOURSELF TO DO SOMETHING FOR AN HOUR!!!

Hallelujah!! 

So, while it may feel like you need to do 3 hours of pleasure practices a week to have the sex life and pleasure-filled body of your dreams…

The truth is, you only need 5 minutes a few times a week to create that level of transformation. 

Starting small is the key to rewiring your brain. 

And once your brain is rewired to wake up craving pleasure on the daily…

You’ll unleash the pleasure-Goddess or pleasure-God or pleasure-Goddex potential that you so deeply desire. 

So head over here to learn my simple yoni egg pleasure practice. 

Love,
Layla

P.S. Super Early Bird pricing for my VITA™ Coaching Certification is ending soon! If you’ve been toying with the idea of exploring a new career as a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach or expanding your existing coaching business, this is the BEST time to make the leap and take advantage of our outrageously sexy bonuses and best price available before the doors close! Head over here to get all the details and apply now!

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Hi Jayden,

I write to you in this moment with my heart cracked wide open…

I’ve been in a deep dive experience of exploring the most profound wounds of my own heart space....

Andrew and I have been crying together every single day, unwinding fears and sorrows and griefs that are ancient.

It just feels like that time, you know? To get so real and true and deep. 

And although this has been so incredibly challenging, I know it is the highest blessing to be able to meet the pains of my heart that have worked to keep me from my highest love. 

For you, it’s probably also been an intense time...there is so much unwinding, revealing, shifting happening right now. 

What’s required of us takes a lot of courage and a lot of heart. 

A huge part of my work and my mission is to prepare you for moments like this…

But also to prepare you for the rest of your life, so you can really show up for yourself and the moments that add up each day. 

That sounds like a super simple thing, but it’s not. 

Life stretches us, challenges us, changes us, and sometimes, crushes us. 

But life also delights us, loves us, supports us, and gives us a divine heart of infinite love. 

And in order to really, fully seize life...to feel that you are fully living as the Queen you were born to be…

It takes real Goddess-level warrior training. 

(You can take a deep dive into what that training entails by downloading the 2021 syllabus here.)

When I created the VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification, my partner Andrew told me it was too challenging, that no one would want to do something that intensive (it’s basically a year and a half of very powerful content and training!). 

I looked him in the eye and I said: “If they want to be Queens of their own sexuality, hearts, and relationships...they’re going to have to work hard. If they want to have the knowledge, tools, and confidence to be able to guide others in that space, nothing but a Goddess-level training will do.” 

Because if it was super easy to be happy, fulfill your desires, follow your heart, and create epic sexuality with a powerful romantic partnership...we’d all just do it. 

But it’s not that easy. 

Because our childhood pain, trauma, and conditioning gets in the way. 

Because what we got imprinted with as “reality” during our upbringing lacks the magic and power to birth the life of our dreams. 

Because to get to ecstasy and thriving, we need to work with not just our nervous systems and our minds, but our energy systems and our souls. 

In VITA™ Coaching, before we even get to the foundational course content, we spend several weeks orienting you to the program. We’ll dive into how to hold yourself with compassion and love through deep, profound personal work and how to co-create a safe and transformative container alongside your fellow students. 

The first trimester invites you to embody pure love and break through old sexual conditioning so you can embrace your full, authentic sexuality. 

You’ll learn how to use the holistic sex tools that will supercharge your orgasmic nature and unlock your sacred sexuality using energy and the chakra system. 

Then we’ll spend a few weeks diving deep into healing trauma and patterns to support you to become the wild, magnificent human you were meant to be.

And this doesn’t even begin to cover it....

In fact, the entire first five months of the program are dedicated to your own personal transformation journey around your sexuality where you will discover how to access
your sexual ecstasy, power, and sensitivity…

While also expanding your heart and capacity to love, and exploring how to create intimate and healthy relationships.

When I say that this coaching certification is “life-changing,” I mean: It will force you to change your own life. 

It will challenge you and change you in all the best ways. 

It will give you the magic and energy to birth the life of your dreams. 

And to step up into your greatest power and live life as the Queen you were born to be.

This program will invite you to step into your sexual magnificence... to develop an intimate and powerfully loving relationship with your body like you’ve never known. 

It will call you to map your orgasmic nature so completely that you discover levels of orgasmic ecstasy you probably didn’t know you had. 

It will draw you so deeply into your own sexuality that you discover divine states of awe and gratitude on the other side. 

And, look, I know how far most of us are from that. 

I don’t expect you to be anywhere close to those things; that’s what this training is for. 

This program will ask you to enter your heart in ways you’ve never done before... 

And explore all the ways this world has asked you to deny the depth and beauty and radiance of your own love. 

And we’ll go there together: into the tears, into the laughter, into the mystery of it all. 

If you’re excited to begin this journey, I invite you to apply here now.

When I say that this program will open up avenues of love in your life, I mean, yes, a radical self-love, but I also mean a potent love for all of humanity and especially for women. 

If you’ve been hiding from love, denying yourself love: in this program, you’ll be forced to stop running and to look within, so that you can finally rest in the love that you are. 

If you are in a relationship, this means taking a huge, courageous step into a next-level relationship of communication and connection. 

It means overturning ancient fears and denials and finding each other in a whole new way: sexually, spiritually, and intimately. 

And if you are dating, it means knowing your worth and claiming yourself as a Queen so that you are only able to say yes to someone who can acknowledge your royalty and step into their own. 

This is not a small journey; it’s epic and potent and kind of indescribable. 

It’s soaked in magic. 

And it’s real: you will get to spend a full year working on yourself in the most powerful, transformational way and emerge as a leader and Queen in the domain of sex, love, and relationships. 

But, it requires you to step up, seize the moment, and say YES to a portal of transformation that will ask you to find spaces of strength and wonder in yourself each and every day. 

So if you’re feeling called, you can find out all of the details of the program and fill out your application here.

BTW - this is only the personal development aspect of the certification! I’ll tell you about the comprehensive business and professional development you’ll experience in my next email!

Love, 
Layla

P.S. Get your application in early to take advantage of our Super Early Bird period where you’ll get exclusive access to “VITA Foreplay: an immersive program warming up for your sexiest, most powerful year EVER” with me, PLUS the limited-time 24-month payment plan option (when Super Early Bird period ends on September 8th, so does this extended payment plan option!). 

P.P.S. If you’re not interested in my certification at this time, I totally feel you  - we’re not all into the coaching path or this specific program. You can go here and you won’t receive any further emails about it, but you’ll continue receiving my weekly video series!

Hi Jayden,

If you’re in a relationship, let me ask you something…

Do you crave: 

• Feeling a more spiritual connection with your beloved
• Experiencing a richer emotional connection
• And feeling deeper intimacy during sex together?

If you answered yes to any or all of the above, do I have a treat for you!

I know we’re all busy, so I’ve designed a quick 30-minute neo-Tantric date night so that the two of you can drop into this process without a huge commitment. 

This is a great “starter date-night” for a partner who is potentially resistant or suspicious of such things as well ;)

Watch the overview of this 30-minute neo-Tantric date night here. 

If you’re a spiritual person, you have likely found very little information about how to be spiritual in the context of your relationship. 

Like, sure you can meditate or do yoga together. 

I mean, I have like 12 tarot card decks and Andrew has a mean crystal collection. 

But what does it mean to be on a spiritual path together?

One way is to engage in spiritual practices as part of your emotional and sexual connection. 

As in, you live your spiritual path together and explore what comes up. 

Another way to be on a spiritual path together is to completely change the way you think about relationships and partnership. 

What if partnership was less about a fairy-tale and more about facing your whole self as a pathway to self-realization? 

Like the same way that you face yourself when you sit down and meditate. 

What does it mean to face yourself when you sit down in front of your chosen mirror (aka your partner) after years and decades together? 

And what does it mean to face all of your partner? 

These are the questions I’ve been asking myself lately and they’ve opened up a whole new gateway of depth between me and Andrew. 

I’m so excited to share this level of depth and learning with you so you can take your own deeper journey in partnership as well! 

So stay tuned for more on that soon! (But this 30-minute date night is an excellent place to start!) 

BTW - I included a free guided audio for the entire 30-minute date night that you can download and use over and over again. 

Go here to watch the Neo-Tantra Date Night overview and access the guided audio. 

Love,
Layla

P.S. My super sexy course for couples - Epic Lovers - is opening for enrollment in a few days!! If you enjoyed the practices in this week’s video, you’ll L-O-V-E all the sensual, fun, and sexy practices I’ll guide you through in my Epic Lovers course! If you’re interested - hop on the waitlist over here and you’ll be the first to know when we open the doors for enrollment! 
 

Hi Jayden,

There is nothing more rewarding than a fulfilling love life and a happy, healthy relationship.

Except maybe…. Helping others experience the same!

So…let me ask you...

Do you desire to build a career based on purpose and passion?

Do you feel called to make a positive difference in the world?

Do you want to create financial freedom and a lifestyle that truly lights you up?

Do you want to support others (and yourself) in experiencing deeper love, intimacy, and more fulfilling relationships in their lives?

All while making a great income in a rapidly expanding field that needs qualified, inspired, and talented leaders?

Then I am so excited to invite you to apply for my VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification!

This one-year certification will teach you the powerful tools and practices that will support you in building a financially rewarding coaching business - and how to grow it like a boss.

Did I mention that love and relationship coaching is one of the hottest and fastest-growing niches globally? And that there has never been a better time than NOW to start your career in this field?

Well… At this point, you can probably feel just HOW excited and passionate I am about love and relationship coaching….

And, let’s be real, this program is a “coaching certification” and yes, it will make you a bomb-ass DOPE-AF coach with serious A-level transformational skills….

It will train you in high-level online business sales and marketing techniques so that you can enroll high-end clients into your epic programs….

BUT more than anything else, the VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification is the personal development adventure of a lifetime. 

VITA™ Coaching is for you if you desire personally to: 

• Make your life a rocketship of aliveness and magic
• Step into your Queen power in leadership, sex, and life
• Open your heart so fully that you are the embodiment of unconditional self-love

Here is a real Facebook post from 2020 VITA™ Coaching student, Lea, who shared some of her personal transformations from going through the program (and gave us permission to share it with you!)

AND VITA™ Coaching is for you if you desire professionally to: 

• Step into your power and leadership around your healing gifts
• Create and sell high-end coaching packages
• Build a personal coaching brand that feels uniquely you

VITA™ Coaching student, Ani, shared her professional celebration with the private Facebook group about finally launching her coaching program and selling it out - making back all of the money she invested in the program!

If something inside of you is lighting up right now...

Then head on over here to check out all the details about the certification program.

In a survey from 3 years of our graduates, 97.7% said that “the investment in this program was worth it.”

And that’s because my VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification is the best training in the industry and the only one of its kind. Here’s why:

• This program has been developed to turn you into a world-class, game-changing professional with an inspiring career that you LOVE.
• You’ll learn how to support people in transforming their sexuality, love, and relationships through a powerful combination of the most effective modern and ancient tools available.
• It’s not an understatement to say that this program epically transforms your life and opens you up to a magical world that you never thought you could experience. 
• But the best part? When you’re done, you get to go and help other people do the same!

After four sold-out and incredible years of running this certification, my team and I are so excited to invite you into our fifth year!! 

We’ve been constantly upgrading and improving the whole program, adding even more amazing support and training for you, and I can say with confidence (and a full heart) that this round is going to be the best training we’ve ever created.

So if you're excited to learn more or apply…

Hop on over and check out the certification here. 

You can read through the 2021 syllabus and get all the details about the program (and hear what graduates from previous years have to say about it too!).

Love,
Layla

P.S. If you’re not interested in my certification at this time, I totally feel you  - we’re not all into the coaching path or this specific program. You can go here and you won’t receive any further emails about it, but you’ll continue receiving my weekly video series!

Hi Jayden, 

About 17 years ago at Stanford University, I sat in poorly ergonomically designed and uncomfortable chairs, listening to boring class lectures on sexuality...

Like using science to understand basic sexual functioning (great, but meh) and what age people are when they first have sex (fine, but meh)...

And finally, I was like: DOESN’T ANYONE WANT TO USE SCIENCE TO HAVE MIND-BLOWING ORGASMS?

What about using science to heal from all that shitty negative conditioning so WE CAN LIVE LIVES OF PLEASURE AND SWEET, SWEET ABANDON? 

OR, how about we use science to HACK OUR BRAINS AND EXPERIENCE THE ENERGETIC AWESOMENESS OF SEX?

My desperate pleas echoed hollowly through the silent, badly lit halls of higher education and the narrow imaginations of (mostly) male professors. 

I resolved, then and there, to use the awesome power of science not just for external technology, but to upgrade our internal technology (AKA our brains and entire nervous system) to feel more pleasure, intimacy, love, and aliveness. 

I mean, how many electric cars and iPhones does one need before realizing: “You know, maybe it isn’t really the technology that’s going to make this life worth living. Maybe it’s feeling the epic delight of my own pussy and igniting into a universal orgasm in the soulful eyes of my lover.”

Just me? 

That sentiment put me on my mission, which has led me here to you, today. 

If you feel like science could be used for more than just getting us all addicted to screens and (probably) over-medicated…

And instead back to our highest pleasure, romantic, and life potential, then you are in the right place. 

If you’re excited to use that same approach professionally - to weave the magic of spiritual practices with a grounding approach from science to transform other people’s lives…

Then the VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification just might be for you.

You see, I find it stressful when people get too far into the magical, spiritual side of things that they lose touch with good old rationality. 

And too much good old rationality will strangle the fun out of basically anything if you don’t balance it with magic and spirituality. 

That’s why I created this certification that respects science and also deeply acknowledges that most of the awesome things we experience are not **yet** to be found in Scientific American.

To demonstrate how science can be used in the service of pleasure, I’ve included three prime examples below: 

Actual science that supports pleasure #1: 

“Celebrate the hell out of your life and choose to Shine as often as possible if you want to maximize your best habits.” 

Research by BJ Fogg, who founded the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford University, shows that if you celebrate your tiny successes, this small shift alone will contribute to massive positive change. 

In his book “Tiny Habits,” he encourages everyone to experience “Shine,” a new word that he coined for the positive feeling we get when we experience success. His research has shown that: “Celebration will one day be ranked alongside mindfulness and gratitude as daily practices that contribute most to our overall happiness and well-being.”  

How we apply this in the VITA™ Coaching Certification: 

Even before I saw this research, “Celebrations” were a cornerstone of the whole program. While it can feel super challenging, being able to celebrate yourself, your experiences, and especially your wins - big and small - is a massive key to upleveling your nervous system and encouraging you to live your best life. 

I saw in my early days of teaching the kind of toxic sexual and relationship behavior that kept people down. 

A woman would experience her first-ever cervical orgasm and then immediately shift to criticizing herself for taking so long. A woman on the hunt for sexual bliss with her husband would feel more pleasure, but then be super hard on herself for not feeling enough. 

Here is the heart of this: if you want to build new and better skills, research shows that you’ve got to celebrate your tiny wins. You’ve got to let yourself experience “Shine,” the joy of growing in small ways each and every day. 

But how often do we do that sexually? Ugh, almost never! We tend to criticize, shame, guilt, and fear-monger ourselves about our performance and pleasure and orgasm. 

And if you’re nodding in agreement right now, then please, in the name of science, STOP THE NEGATIVITY AND START CELEBRATING YOUR BODY, YOUR PLEASURE, YOUR EXPERIENCES AND MOST OF ALL, YOUR WHOLE EXISTENCE!

Of course, this is easier said than done. It takes focus and dedication to really empower yourself to celebrate. And to make this a daily practice.

That’s why in the VITA™ Coaching Certification, we start celebrating from day one. 

We cultivate a community and an educational experience soaked in celebrations. 

Even if celebrations feel terrifying to you or even impossible (which is very common), you will learn to celebrate yourself in ways that feel joyful and eventually, natural. You will learn to Shine, dammit! ;) 

And the best part is that you get to bring this approach to your clients so they can Shine, too. 

I can’t tell you how many sex, love, and relationship coaches focus only on the major milestones, but not the tiny successes each step of the way. Way too many coaches are subtly shaming their clients with sky-high goals instead of showering them with acceptance and love. 

As a coach, you’ll get to encourage your clients to feel good and to Shine… Every. Tiny. Step. Of. The. Way! 

And you won’t have to worry that it’s too fluffy or soft because you’ll know it’s backed with science. And you’ll get to celebrate that you build rocketships of pleasure and joy with that science, because that’s what you came here to do. 

Actual science that supports pleasure #2:

Mystical experiences are so powerful they can cure smoking addictions and significantly reduce anxiety and depression in cancer patients.

Research by Johns Hopkins and NYU published in the Journal of Psychopharmacology in 2016 showed that, in cancer patients dealing with anxiety and depression, “the degree to which symptoms decreased in both trials correlated with the intensity of the ‘mystical experience’ that volunteers reported…” 

These researchers were inducing mystical experiences through administering psilocybin (psychedelics) to study participants. 

In another study by Johns Hopkins University, study participants were given psilocybin to cure smoking addiction... 

“Six months after their psychedelic session, 80% of the volunteers were confirmed to have quit smoking. At the one-year mark, that figure had fallen to 67%, which is still a better rate of success than the best treatment now available.”

Source: Michael Pollan in the Wall Street Journal. 

Yes, this science telling you to be mystical (and get high, haha) comes from the Wall Street Journal. 

How we apply this in the VITA™ Coaching Certification: 

In VITA™ Coaching, we’re coaches, not therapists, so we aren’t curing anxiety, depression, or addiction. 

But, we are working with tools that induce mystical experiences... 

Practices like breathwork, the jade egg, Tantric energy exercises, meditations, and sacred sexuality all induce natural (and sober!) mystical experiences. And science is showing that these mystical experiences are healing and powerful beyond measure. 

One of the most beautiful parts of our coaching methodology is that it invites people to incorporate mystical experiences into their daily lives as a way to achieve their highest potential in sex, love, and relationships. 

So if you feel drawn to showing people not just the doorway to sex, love, and relationships, but the whole portal to mystical experiences (which I believe we should all be accessing regularly for our greatest health and happiness!) then VITA™ Coaching is for you... 

It’s the only coaching program I know of that uses mystical experiences to enliven and heal in an integrated and safe way. 

Actual science that supports pleasure #3:

“Expanding your access to pleasure is healthy.” 

Stanford University professor of Neuroscience and lab director, Andrew Huberman, recently said: “I define addiction as a progressive narrowing of the things that bring you pleasure. I define enlightenment as a progressive widening of the things that bring you pleasure.”

Now, we might not agree on the exact definition of enlightenment, but you have to agree that a Stanford Neuroscientist lab director being in such deep support of widening the parts of life that bring us pleasure is a huge vote for the importance of pleasure. 

How we apply this in the VITA™ Coaching Certification: 

One of the fundamental teachings in the whole program is training your nervous system to experience more pleasure. 

The nervous system is highly trainable and susceptible to forming habits. 

Most people deny their pleasure and seriously limit its applications. 

Through regular pleasure practices, we systematically train the nervous system not just to feel pleasure during sex (which is amazing), but to learn to experience pleasure through ALL of life. 

In my opinion, the hunger for real pleasure starves our souls and leaves us as empty ghosts clinging to entertainment or fleeting highs, like sugar or alcohol. 

This coaching certification trains you to master the art of pleasure inside and out through systematically releasing negative belief systems and habits around denying yourself real, true pleasure... 

And inviting you to retrain your nervous system to allow the deepest sense of pleasure when you eat, dance, make love, exercise, and create. 

This is just a start of how exciting it is to use science to support our highest sexual selves and deepest personal pleasures. 

If you are feeling super inspired about using science to train yourself in the arts of pleasure, so you never have to go soul-hungry again, then being a VITA™ Coach might just be your calling. 

And if you’re feeling that it’s your calling to step into this career and use science for pleasure, then check out all the details about the VITA™ Coaching Certification here. 

So much love + research-backed pleasure, 
Layla

P.S. Our Super Early Bird period is closing on September 8th, and if you get your application in now, you’ll be able to take advantage of $11,500 worth of bonuses and live pre-training with me and my team that starts on September 10th. So I invite you to get your application in now over here.

P.P.S. If you’re not interested in my certification at this time, I totally feel you  - we’re not all into the coaching path or this specific program. You can go here and you won’t receive any further emails about it, but you’ll continue receiving my weekly video series!

Hi Jayden,

I believe the most essential skill you need to be an elite coach is safety... 

Because masterfully creating and maintaining safety in sessions is what allows your clients to trust you in guiding them through transformative processes. 

With the VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification, you’ll become an expert in:

• How to create safety in your own nervous system (even if you’ve never felt it before) 
• How to restore a client to a sense of safety so that you can handle anything that arises in a session
• Your own safety blindspots, so that you have a deep understanding of where you aren’t able to hold a safe space and can compassionately improve those areas!

Maybe the word “safety” sounds a little boring to you?

It does to me ;)

But when I actually feel safe…

It’s like a ?? rainbow of glittery energy ?? flows through my whole system….

I remember an ancient time when female sexuality was revered and protected…

And in that safety, I get to shine in a way that feels radical and fully alive. ? 

Maybe you’ve also noticed that when you feel safe, beautiful things emerge. 

You get to play, because you feel safe. 

You get to be fully expressed, because you feel safe.

You get to expand to the edges of your known, because you feel safe.

Safety is the ultimate sexy experience to me because it allows us to express our full wildness and pleasure in a way that touches us to the core - rather than as a performance or a mask. 

When you hold a safe space for your clients, they feel a deep sense of trust and are able to bloom (even though they might not know why!). 

So if you long to learn and grow in a safe space yourself… and also to hold a safe space as a coach…

Then you should know that in the VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification, safety is a core value of your experience and training. 

And as a VITA™ Coaching graduate, you’ll understand safety inside and out. 

You’ll learn how to create safety for…

? Yourself and your own nervous system (honestly, most women have never felt real safety in their whole lives)...

? Your clients (by understanding how to impart wisdom and tools so they can self-regulate and own their experience and also by being able to show up with deep, loving presence for them)...

? An entire community as a leader (because I believe that to be an excellent space-holder, you need to be completely adept at creating, understanding, and working with the experience of safety in yourself and others)

Research based on Polyvagal Theory developed by Stephen Porges shows that safety is not just something nice to have in a transformative experience... 

But it’s actually necessary for the nervous system to create genuine integration and self-empowerment. 

It can be scary to launch your business, period... but it feels so much better when you’ve been educated in safety and how to hold safety as a value in your coaching and programs. 

You see, when I learned Tantra, trauma healing, and sacred sexual practices, I did it in a lot of really unsafe environments. 

I didn’t feel safe as a woman, I didn’t feel safe to be my full sexual self, and I didn’t feel safe in my mind, body, emotions, or spirituality. 

The experiences ranged from being in almost cult-like atmospheres where dogma was forced on me…

To spaces where there was rampant misogyny, sexual harassment, and/or even assault happening from the teachers. 

Then there was just your “garden-variety” lack of safety where I wasn’t honored in my boundaries or my own unique wisdom and perspective. 

And because I didn’t grow up in a safe environment or receive a safe sacred sexuality education… safety is something I’m always working on in my personal life and programs. 

We all grew up in societies based on systems of oppression and hierarchy where, sadly, racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, and homophobia are not yet a thing of the past…

So it’s literally not possible to bring hundreds of people from around the globe together and have 100% safety. 

Because the truth is, we all have blindspots, including me. And part of this training is an invitation to lean into those spaces deep inside of yourself that you may be unaware of. 

And instead of feeling ashamed or criticized for those blindspots, this process of exploration and integration is held in safety. 

Because with the goal of safety, it is possible to continuously expand, integrate, and uplevel together, as a community. 

But we need women and gender non-conforming folks of ALL ages, ethnicities, cultural and spiritual backgrounds, sexual orientations, and gender identities to take a stand for a new future.

A future where we honor a unique approach to safety that is truly integrated and inclusive.

A future where sexuality and safety are seen as beautiful, necessary, and sacred. 

No matter what.

And that’s exactly what the VITA™ Coaching Certification is all about…

It’s a community where we believe in relationship-building, calling-in deep love, and restoration. 

It’s a safe space of connecting, healing, and understanding. 

But it’s not a space where you have to believe what I believe or accept everyone else’s point of view…

It’s safe for us to disagree and come from different perspectives (which is crucial to experiencing your own truth and power).

It takes a lot of dedication and work to build safe spaces, and one of the things that excites me the most about this certification is that we are a space that absolutely welcomes, encourages, and celebrates diversity…

And we commit every year as a team to implementing training and systems to create even more safety in the learning experience for everyone ??

Now I invite you to drop in and ask yourself…

Do I feel called to claim a career as a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach? 

To make a potent choice that celebrates diversity and uplifts those around me? 

While providing the deep work that calls me to understand and create safety on a profound level?

If you feel a “YES,” then I invite you to apply for the VITA™ Coaching Certification here.

I’d be totally thrilled to have you!

Love,
Layla

P.S. If you feel called and are on board with this mission, apply for the certification now. The Early Bird period ends on November 3rd, so get your $1,000 discount and take advantage of all our amazing bonuses before we sell out!

And if you have a particular lived experience that you are not sure is welcome or safe in the program, please feel free to email us and one of my team members can discuss this with you!

Hi Jayden,

One of my VITA™ Coaching students said (exuberantly) last year, “You know, Layla, I came for the mind-blowing orgasms, but I stayed for the spiritual awakening.” 

She didn’t consider herself a spiritual person before joining my certification program…

So it was a little shocking for her (but also incredibly satisfying) to discover that her mind-blowing orgasms were actually a gateway to a much deeper reality. 

The reality that within each of us is a level of unparalleled ?magic, ? beauty,? and ? aliveness? ...and that going deep inside of ourselves is the heart of spiritual revelations. 

One aspect of spiritual awakening is encountering Kundalini energy: a sacred Goddess consciousness within all of us that can activate as part of our process. 

Kundalini energy exists in every human body, and I am deeply passionate about more people understanding and experiencing gratitude for this immense access point to the divine within us. 

In the female body, this energy often takes a sensual, orgasmic, and even ecstatic expression that has been shamed, judged, and demonized by the patriarchy. 

Well...I say NO LONGER. It is well past time for us to reclaim our natural ecstatic and sensual spiritual connection with authority and without shame! And activating our Kundalini energy is one path to get there.

I made this week’s video in partnership with my friend and Tantra teacher, Josefina Bashout, to do a deeper dive into what this energy is and how to work with it in your life. 

As Josefina says in the video, “It’s given me this deep sense of unshakable confidence and power that nothing or no one could ever strip or take from me again.”

Learn what Kundalini energy is and how to activate it here. 

A core part of my mission is to empower women and anyone who has been marginalized for their gender expression or sexuality to feel whole and safe in their spirituality and wisdom once again…

And owning how spirituality moves through our bodies and our lives is essential to that. 

I’d love to hear from you in the comments of the video about your experiences of Kundalini energy (if any) or any other spiritual wisdom you’d love to share!

Love,
Layla

P.S. I am SO excited to announce that the doors to my VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching Certification are officially OPEN! ?? So if you’ve been flirting with the idea of exploring a career in empowering others through coaching and you’re curious to learn more, then hop on over here to get all the details and check out the syllabus for 2021. 

Hi Jayden,

I know many of you deal with long-distance separation and anxieties, and this is one of the most common video topic requests I get. 

Andrew and I were in a long-distance relationship not long after we started dating (I’ll tell that story below...) and we had to get creative with how to keep our sexual connection strong with 10,000 miles - or 16,000 kilometers according to Andrew - of distance between us. 

So, for those of you love-birds who know the aching of long-distance hearts...here are some sexy tips to keep your long-distance relationship and intimacy alive and thriving. 

Learn my favorite sex tips for long-distance relationships here.

Andrew and I first fell in love in Bali. 

He came over for dinner one night and I made him kitchari (which is still, to this day, the only actual dish I can make with confidence).

After months of flirting, I finally said “Can I ask you a question?” 

“The answer is yes,” he said. 

“Can I ask anyway?” 

“Yes,” he said.

“Are we going to make out?”

“Yes,” he said. 

And make out we did. Like, wow ??.

We spent the next few months living together while Andrew kept delaying his plane ticket back to Australia...and every time he did, he’d pick me up and we’d dance together in ecstatic joy ??????????. 

But eventually, the time came when we couldn’t put our inevitable separation off any longer... I needed to go to New York City and he needed to return home to Sydney. 

So, there we were: madly in love with an entire ocean and 14-hour time difference between us. 

Ohh, the aching. 

Ohh, the Skyping. 

Ohh, the anxiety. 

Not to mention, I’d been doing spiritual practices in the jungles of Asia for like 10 years, and all of a sudden I was in the concrete jungle of NYC with no money and no friends... 

Which only added to my stress and anxiety over our separation. 

We originally planned to get our own places in NYC and take it slow, but since we were talking morning and night anyway (and because of rent in New York vs Bali, HELLO!) we ended up moving to the East Village together. 

After six long and painful weeks apart, he flew across the world and ran into my arms (in slow motion, of course)...and the rest is history. 

So I wanted to share with you some of the tools and tips that helped us get through that time apart, which actually made our connection and intimacy even stronger when we were finally together again!

Watch my tips for keeping your long-distance relationship spark alive here.

Let me know if you have other amazing tips in the comments section below the video!

(I’ve returned to reading and answering comments again - everything got so busy that I had to step away for a moment - but I’m BACK! Can’t wait to hear from you…)

Love,
Layla

P.S. Our erotic couple’s program Epic Lovers is opening soon! Taking this course with your partner can be a fun and sexy way to prioritize your sex life even when apart and build your arsenal of sex tools and techniques to look forward to trying together when you’re reunited! Join the waitlist for Epic Lovers here and you’ll be the first to know when the doors are open for enrollment!

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